There is a lot of mindless, pointless dating going on. A lot of boys with no good intentions that want to date some really fabulous young women in our communities. We’ve all heard about dads who joke, “I’ll get my gun out if any boy comes around.” But I find it strange that I rarely hear of any fathers or mothers giving wise council to these young men & women. Where are the fathers & mothers that know how to handle a guy who wants to date their daughters?
It’s time to Be Courageous. Ask Hard Questions.
1. What is your PURPOSE in dating my daughter?
2. What are your spiritual beliefs?
“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14
If they are not at peace with God, then you can just stop right there. We cannot act like these relationships are cute. We cannot support a relationship between a believer & a non-believer. This subject must not be treated lightly. In God’s law, a pastor cannot marry a couple that is not one in Christ. God has something Better! I’ve found that many girls & ladies do not really BELIEVE that God truly DOES have something BETTER for them. Even when women cannot believe this for themselves, WE must REMIND them.
3. What are you doing to protect the PURITY of my daughter?
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Is he touching her inappropriately? ASK!
4. How do you PROVIDE for yourself?
5. How do you PLAN on providing for a family?
6. What’s your credit score?
If they aren’t scared by now, this ought to get ‘em! One of the BEST indicators of a man’s integrity & responsibility is his credit score. Financial issues are the number one reason for divorce. We want something BETTER!!!
7. When was the last time you got angry? How did you respond?
8. Are you prepared for marriage?
Let me know what they say to this one. If he’s already proposed, you’re going to have to get on it & work fast!
What is the point in dating someone that isn’t suitable for marriage? There isn’t one.
I hope we see strong moms, dads, & leaders rise up! Be Courageous!
Give the single women & men in your community sound advice on dating & marriage. It’s your God given responsibility & honor to guide them. Not just to be their “friends.”
Now let’s go change the world.
Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.
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